Ugh. I am. This is going to read like therapy I should have. I’m 42, I grew up with an angel of a mother, a super-patriarchal dad and oldest brother (10 years old than me). I’m athletic and small-chested and grew up with an attitude of being a “man-hater”… dad & oldest brother. I never dated. I he

Did I wait too long? Are my “good” years behind me? Sometimes I wonder if I should’ve come out earlier. BEFORE two failed marriages in heteroworld, back when I had no fear when it came to dating. Never would’ve thought, coming out in my 40s, it would be this difficult to find my people/my person. I

For the past few months I feel like I am in some sort of post coming out cocoon period where I have just been through so much emotional trauma -admitting to myself that I am gay (I’ve always known but actually allowing myself to be in that knowledge ) taking the steps to come out as gay to myself to

Ok so I’m going to kick off my first official LC website forum post with a fun story… not a coming out story or a she broke my heart and it is in a zillion pieces type of story.. this is more of a get to know Heather at the core of who she is through her adventures story… a FUN story…but just so you

How do you meet people, your cohort of familiars? I know they say, get intentional about it, treat it like a job. Turn up for everything, eventually something will stick. I don’t do social media and I do feel like I have shot myself in the foot with that but I just can’t, it’s a lot. And I don’t mi

My story is a bit different from most and may not get the popularity vote. I came out in 2014 to my husband after knowing for a long time that I was attracted to women. I, like many grew up in a very Catholic household raised solely by my Father with my Grandma's help though she lived a few miles aw

Okay. So I’m starting the long financial stage of the separation process. I’m currently living in the family home attic, a la that old book, Rebecca. Ha. I don’t want to stay in the attic forever. I’ve made appointments to speak with loan consolation programs in the hopes of saving my credit score.

The truth that dawns on us or we have lived with for years, whilst understanding the politics of societal norms. A man’s world and the emotional blackmail that makes us…  Honestly our situation is considered implausible, dystopian sci fi is not a relatively new genre, we live it. The brainwash makes

I see stories posted of ladies coming out late, in their '30s. I'm 60, I came out about 3 years ago. I still feel like a baby gay. Even through the last 3 years I feel like there's things I should have done differently and wish I did. I truly wish I had someone to talk with early on. I just ended

2019:  I am alone, drunk, hiding in my literal closet, and texting with a suicide prevention hotline.  I had been Googling gay bars to go to while my husband was out of town for work.  I hated myself more than ever.  I started seeing my therapist a few days later.  I took my last drink of alcohol so

Hello, As an older (35-40) aged woman coming out (ish) in a fairly small community - how do you meet people? It seems like most support groups are geared towards the younger crowds.

Hi Ladies I wanted to share some of my favorite queer podcasts besides of course the #1 favorite of mine LC !! So here we go. The lesbian supper club Women wanting Women The Handsome podcast Coming out late Made it Out I am a podcast junkie and all of these having something to offer . Melisa

Miriam is a great voice for late bloomers in the UK. here is a workshop she is running in case it is of interest. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvTNGfNDzSk&ab_channel=PsychotherapywithMiriamGrace https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvTNGfNDzSk&ab_channel=PsychotherapywithMiriamGracehttps://www.youtu

Reading Melissa Etheridge's new book...Talking to My Angels. I was already a fan, but now a super fan. I had no idea how much adversity she had along the way and during all her success. She's super vulnerable and inspiring. Great read.

We want everyone to get the most out of this community, so we ask that you please read and follow these guidelines: • Respect each other • Keep posts relevant to the forum topic • No spamming

Has anyone had to navigate when a husband does not want to separate/divorce? Like many of you, my husband is a wonderful man and loves me unconditionally. He is supportive of me pursuing my queer identity, meeting and dating others but ultimately wants to stay together but in a non conventiona

Hello! I just came out as a Lesbian at 27. I don’t have any queer friends but I live close to a city that’s very queer friendly. I was thinking of attending some queer events to help find some queer friends but I’m a little nervous about going alone. I know one queer person in the area who was a f

We'd love to get to know you better. Take a moment to share your coming out stories, .

I am definitely NOT an expert, but we went to a family therapist before telling the kids and this was her advice and it seemed to work for us. 1. First, have a script of sorts...even if just in your mind. Talking points. So Chris (husband) and I had a plan for the general messaging. Things we w

Good Morning all. So, currently, my marriage is on the rocks. My cis-hetero husband has always had a drinking problem, which caused many issues in our marriage. Now, I'm over this entire I'm giving 150%, and he's showing none. It's been four years, and now he says he's ready to go to counseling and

Hey all - This really isn't a Q & A, and I know this forum isn't overly active. But I just wanted to share a story from the last week that might help someone out there who needs a little boost of confidence. I've been single - from my catalyst - for awhile. Sadly my catalyst has decided to just g

Thank you to everyone who has posted already. I’ve read every word of your stories. 💕 So I’m currently 43. I guess I came out abou 4 ½ years ago to my husband and to myself about a year before that. I remember never understanding the boy crazy scene…I would lie and choose one of the New Kids on the

Hey all! Just wanted to say hello. I had my gay panic in 2022 - fell in love with a woman who had been out her whole life, while I was happily married to a man. Yes, I was happily married. And was not looking to leave my marriage. We had a Golden Retriever puppy, were trying for a baby, had a crib

Does anyone know of retreats run by gay women for gay women ? Just curious if its a thing at all out there .I know there are many retreats for women to connect ...but I can't find anything specifically for lesbians ..Thanks

Are any of the ladies here interested in connecting sometime through a ZOOM meet and greet . I would be happy to host . Melisa and Alli have been doing such a great job trying to connect women in so many ways . Lets see if we can help the website thrive in their intention of creating that connection

I’m 38 now, I’ve been with my fiancé now coming up on 6 years. It hasn’t always been easy- that’s for sure. At around 32, I started a new job. I was “happily” married at the time but completely unsatisfied and lacking in connection and passion which I had discussed numerous times with my now ex-husb

Wanted to recommend this great memoir! She does a great job of capturing all the feelings that we are going through, and all the ways we felt like we were alone. It's so reassuring to hear someone's story that you relate to in your darkest moments and know that happily ever after is still possible

As a recovery coach, I love this funny, unique and judgement-free book. It's for everyone from those who don't drink at all, to those who just want to take a night off from booze. (I added a link at the end, but for some reason it's invisible (but shows up if you hover)).https://bookshop.org/p/books

Hello, I am older (35-40) and living in a smaller community. It seems like most social events and support groups are geared towards younger folks. How do you meet others that are on a non straight journey at this age?