Hello! I just came out as a Lesbian at 27. I don’t have any queer friends but I live close to a city that’s very queer friendly. I was thinking of attending some queer events to help find some queer friends but I’m a little nervous about going alone.
I know one queer person in the area who was a friend of a friend in college. I follow them on social media but we never really had that much interaction in school. I was wondering if it would be weird if I reached out to them to see if they want to hang out? I have no intentions on dating or anything romantic at the moment since I’m still processing everything. Just curious if it would be weird to reach out or should I just find my own community by going to queer events. The reason I’ve been thinking about messaging them is because they are very vocal about creating safe places for queer people on their social media post and they seem like someone who is very supportive around the queer experience. Any advice would be helpful, thanks!
Why not do both — ask if they would be willing to meet you at a queer event because you are nervous about going alone but are trying to branch out? I think most queer people would understand the nervousness about going to events alone. I certainly do. So instead of just asking her to hang out with you, you could ask if she would be interested in attending any events with you. And that will jump-start you in terms of going to events, too!