Good Morning all. So, currently, my marriage is on the rocks. My cis-hetero husband has always had a drinking problem, which caused many issues in our marriage. Now, I'm over this entire I'm giving 150%, and he's showing none. It's been four years, and now he says he's ready to go to counseling and do all this work (all of which I've already done so much of), and recently, it dawned on me that I might be a full-on lesbian. I have identified as bisexual as a younger woman. I' 'm 31, and I've had sex with many men but have not been with any women. Something doesn't feel right. I've never understood the big deal about sex. But maybe that's my answer. I've never been with a woman, it is obvious, but something is telling me that men do not give me what I need physically and emotionally. Does anyone else have a similar story? I would love some support in deciding what to do about my marriage. I know something has to change because I'm severely depressed and exhausted.
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Hey Amber, it sounds like you’re dealing with a couple of things right now. Have you considered trying therapy just for yourself? It could really help you figure out what you need. For me, I had a good marriage, but deep down, I knew I wanted to be with a woman—not just for the physical connection, but for the whole relationship. Now I can truly say I understand what it means to make love—it feels so natural and right. Take some time for yourself, maybe talk to a trusted friend or a therapist. Wishing you clarity and all the best, my friend! 💜