Has anyone had to navigate when a husband does not want to separate/divorce?
Like many of you, my husband is a wonderful man and loves me unconditionally. He is supportive of me pursuing my queer identity, meeting and dating others but ultimately wants to stay together but in a non conventional relationship (open marriage, thrupple, etc).
He is really struggling with the sexualization of coming out. “Why would I leave a great relationship for sex?” Any suggestions on how to articulate and explain that that’s not it?
Thanks!
Good morning and thank you for sharing, Beth. As soon as I read your post, I thought of Harra who also shared ... and then I see that she responded to you. I am glad ... and thank you Lesbian Chronicles!
I think you just have to make it clear that it’s not an option to stay together in an open marriage relationship, if that’s what you feel. By staying and dating other people you’re saying you don’t want to leave him. Then it does just become about sex with anyone other than him. Can’t be half in is how I feel.
But it’s taken me a long time to come to that decision. I had a therapist suggest to me that I stay and have an open marriage because the alternative of leaving a safe marriage is more difficult. I think it’s what you can live with and want out of another relationship.