I’ve been down this road twice now with him - I’ll start with that. I filed back in 2021 when I fell madly in love with a woman that was wrong for me and I caved and went back to my husband and safe comfortable life. But no shocker here that I am miserable not living my true life that I’ve wanted since I can remember. Always an excuse of waiting for my. Kids to grow and be independent. Can’t afford it etc So I’ve been trying to convince him to move forward with a collaborative divorce now but I can’t get him to do anything. He is not a bad guy he just wants me to continue to take care of him like a mother in. Business and life. I’ve set ultimatum dates - I’ve spoken to multiple attorneys but years have gone by and I’m just getting more depressed. I’ve had the conversation with him that we are just friends and that doesn’t need to change but I’m never going to want to be physical again with you. He just says ok. Hell call an attorney. But he doesn’t. I just don’t know how to move forward with my life. I’m stopped last year completely trying to start any new relationship and have been concentrating on myself. It’s just killing ne. I’ve only got so many years left of a life to be happy

Has anyone had to navigate when a husband does not want to separate/divorce? Like many of you, my husband is a wonderful man and loves me unconditionally. He is supportive of me pursuing my queer identity, meeting and dating others but ultimately wants to stay together but in a non conventional relationship (open marriage, thrupple, etc). He is really struggling with the sexualization of coming out. “Why would I leave a great relationship for sex?” Any suggestions on how to articulate and explain that that’s not it? Thanks!

Hello! I just came out as a Lesbian at 27. I don’t have any queer friends but I live close to a city that’s very queer friendly. I was thinking of attending some queer events to help find some queer friends but I’m a little nervous about going alone. I know one queer person in the area who was a friend of a friend in college. I follow them on social media but we never really had that much interaction in school. I was wondering if it would be weird if I reached out to them to see if they want to hang out? I have no intentions on dating or anything romantic at the moment since I’m still processing everything. Just curious if it would be weird to reach out or should I just find my own community by going to queer events. The reason I’ve been thinking about messaging them is because they are very vocal about creating safe places for queer people on their social media post and they seem like someone who is very supportive around the queer experience. Any advice would be helpful, thanks!